I’ve always disliked that phrase; preferring “Teaching Disabilities” instead. My oldest daughter KC has a “proving what she learned” disability. The info goes in just fine but she can’t seem to get it out on paper. This is the reason we began homeschooling in the first place. By second grade I was absolutely convinced my daughter was not going to receive an education unless her father and I gave it to her ourselves. I think we’ve done a wonderful job. My daughter is happy, well adjusted, well liked, friendly, giving, loves the Lord, I could go on but it would sound like bragging, (Which I’m doing but I wouldn’t want readers to get that impression).
Recently KC started taking college classes. She is really struggling and feeling like a failure plus she’s not interested in taking anymore classes in the future. She asked me if we could talk to somebody about her difficulties. She said, “If I know what’s wrong then maybe it can be fixed”. After some discussion she realized that there’s no pill or cure for what’s going on but I promised I would talk with someone. So I did, talk with someone that is. My mother sees a neuropsychologist from time to time for testing. Mom has Mild Cognitive Impairment and the testing has been done to first, diagnosis and second to gauge the effects of the meds she takes. Sorry, got off track. Anyway, I talked with mom’s doctor and she encouraged me to bring KC in for a consult. She did tell me ahead of time that even having answers may not settle things for my daughter. According to her, a life-long struggle causes a person to compensate. At 17 years, KC probably has done all the compensating and coping possible. Makes sense.
Yesterday KC had her consult. The interview was interesting. The doctor asked questions that first called into question my daughter’s habits and personality. Something I did not expect but understand why it’s necessary. This doctor doesn’t know my daughter and she needed to evaluate her from all angles. Is this kid failing to pay attention, is she lazy, apathetic, or disorganized? If not, then why does she have trouble remembering what she read without having to reread the material? Why can’t she correctly transfer information from a book to a piece of paper? Why does it take so long for her to answer a question that she is reading but if asked the question directly her verbal response is correct? I certainly can’t answer these questions and my daughter wants satisfaction. By the end of the session I think the doctor had an idea of KC’s personality. I believe she saw KC for the hard working and determined young lady that she is.
We’ve decided to go ahead with the testing. I hope and pray we will find solutions, but realize, as the doctor said before, KC probably does all she can to cope. On an extremely positive note, just with the one visit KC has decided, on the advice of the doctor that she will at least hold off on her decision to quit until after her testing is completed. KC has also been resistant to letting her father or I help her study. She seems to think that asking for help is an admission of failure. The doctor was able to convince KC that everyone needs help from time to time with school and family is the best place to begin receiving it. She also complimented KC on her articulation, telling her it’s been a very long time since a 17 year old communicated with her on an adult level. She even went so far as to tell her she could see her arguing in a court of law. This was a definite ego boaster for KC.
The rest of the evaluation, the actually testing, won’t be completed until the week of Thanksgiving. I’ll let you know how things go.
Blessings
Susan